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I Was Caught Totally Off Guard! And This Is What Happened…


Have You Ever Been Caught Off Guard?

Recently, I was sitting in a cafe, drinking my coffee and attempting some study for my BYCA course, while simultaneously getting distracted by Facebook (damn you Facebook!).

Anyway, a lovely man came up to my table and gently said, ‘HI’, with a huge grin on his face.

I thought he’d mistaken me for someone else and so I said ‘HI’, back, waiting for him to say ‘sorry, I thought you were someone else’.

But he didn’t.

What came from his lips next was, ‘I’m Michael. I just wanted to say hi because I thought you’re really pretty’.

I smiled back, probably turning as red as a beetroot at the same time.

In truth, I was shocked and had no idea what to do. The words that fell from my mouth in response were something along the lines of ‘thanks, but uh, I have a boyfriend’.

This didn’t phase him at all. He continued to smile at me and said ‘that’s ok, I just wanted to let you know you’re really pretty.’

Then he left.

My Awkward After-Thoughts

I sat in disbelief for what seemed like at least 5 minutes.

I’ve had people say similar things before, but never in such a gentle, non-confrontational way that it seemed absolutely genuine. It’s usually shouted from a building site or by a guy surrounded by his friends for support.

As I watched Michael drive off, all I could do was think of my awkward feeling and response to the whole situation.

I realized that what I would have loved to have said back to him was. ‘Hi Michael, I’m Davina. Nice to meet you. Thank you so much for the compliment.’

Is It Possible to Give a Stranger of the Opposite Sex an Innocent Compliment?

This unexpected interaction taught me a lot about myself and what makes me uncomfortable. Being caught off guard and giving responses like this is definitely something that has that effect on me.

Something else I realized is that it’s because the compliment came from a guy that I became so awkward.

I mean, I have random girls give me compliments about my hair, clothes or jewelry on a regular basis and I never blurt out an awkward response to them. Which makes me wonder…

Is this my culture and inner beliefs being exposed?

And is it possible to give a stranger of the opposite sex a compliment, without it seeming as though you’re interested in dating them? If so, how would it need to be phrased?

These are the questions whizzing round my head right now. I don’t have the answers yet, but am definitely planning on giving them a lot of thought over the coming weeks.

To finish, I just want to say:

‘Hi Michael, nice to meet you. Thank you for the beautiful compliment and for giving me the chance to realize an area of potential growth in my life. I’m truly grateful’.

xxx

I’m super interested if this has happened to you too OR if you’ve been the one offering the compliment and how it went down. Let me know in the comments below!






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I have known Davina for nearly 5 years now. She has been an inspiration to me and a loyal friend. She has always truly listened and provided guidance without telling me what to do, which I appreciate. The one thing that I admire the most about my friend with a huge heart and soul is her ability to be true to herself and beliefs no matter what.

Tracey Grayson

2014-08-13T00:32:50+00:00

Tracey Grayson

I have known Davina for nearly 5 years now. She has been an inspiration to me and a loyal friend. She has always truly listened and provided guidance without telling me what to do, which I appreciate. The one thing that I admire the most about my friend with a huge heart and soul is View Full →
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