Recently, I’ve been noticing that I’ve been rushing.
I’ve been rushing to eat because it takes up the time I could be doing more ‘important stuff’…
I’ve been rushing to book our travel (our lives for the next few months), so I can get back to things that ‘really need doing’…
I’ve been rushing to get to the next thing because the things I’m doing aren’t it…
Cest La Vie
The thing is, that’s life, or Cest La Vie, as the french would say!
The unexpected happens.
Things take longer than expected.
Or they just don’t go as planned.
In other words, LIFE HAPPENS.
Whatever the reason for feeling stressed, as though there’s just not enough hours in the day or that you’re not getting to where you want to be as fast as you thought you would, just remember – everything’s happening at the perfect time.
‘That’s Life’ and it doesn’t always go as planned, but that doesn’t mean it’s not perfect.
Learn to Allow
Learning to allow the natural flow of life can be challenging.
I mean, we all know what it feels like to be waiting for something to happen – the feeling that you just want it now. But often that isn’t the best way forward for you (or me).
Often, the universe has other plans and learning to trust in that process can be challenging and frustrating.
We are beings with instantaneous expectaions and so learning to let go and let things unfold naturally is something we’re not accustomed to doing.
Yet, in doing this, you’ll find that the end result often comes around much faster and also, is well beyond your inital expectations.
As Lao Tzu once said:
‘Nature Does Not Hurry, Yet Everything Is Accomplished’
These are powerful words and we can learn a lot from them, despite their simplicity. Just watch a flower grow, it will show you that it’s not pushing, trying or rushing, it’s simply being and yet everything get’s done.
For me, the art of slowing down is at the top of my list right now.
How To Slow Down
I’m putting a few practices in place to help me to slow down, stop pushing and allow things to flow in my life:
1. Pulling a card every morning – I have a bit of an addiction to cards and so every morning I pull a card from one of my many packs. I ask what is most relevant to me for that day and as I read the message, it acts as a reminder to me to slow down. To live life in the present. And to remember that there’s more to life than ‘getting there’.
2. Observing myself – I’m paying attention to my feelings and thoughts so that I can quickly become aware of the times when I’m beginning to feel as though I’m rushing, feeling the pressures to get to some point in the future and generally not being present or trusting in the process of life.
When I become aware that I’m moving beyond the present moment, I take a few deep breaths, meditate or just centre myself and begin again, from the present.
3. Taking time out in nature – One thing that really helps to pull me into the present is being in nature. I just LOVE being amongst the trees (expecially the New Zealand bush), being around animals and birds or being on the beach. I can’t help but feel present in these situations. It brings home to me the reality of what’s actually important in life. If you have something that you know has this effect on you, do more of it! The more you do it, the more you experience life!
This is how I’m helping myself to slow down. I hope it helps you to do the same!